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It has been said that sharing personal stories is one of the most effective ways to change people’s hearts and minds. This is the story of Shane and Tom and Shane hopes you are inspired to share it with others.
It has been said that sharing personal stories is one of the most effective ways to change people’s hearts and minds. This is the story of Shane and Tom and Shane hopes you are inspired to share it with others.
We have received this request from Dolly Magazine – They are writing an informative story for teen magazine DOLLY on bisexuality. The story is going to cover what bisexuality actually is (readers are very young so many of them aren’t aware of it), the common misconceptions about bisexuality and conversations you can have around the [...]
I came across this video clip through a friend on facebook and thought it would be good to share with you and for you to pass it on. IT’S the question that the gays have been asked for, like, ever, yet one in which the heterosexuals have escaped scot-free. Enterprising duo Travis Nuckolls and Chris Baker took [...]
You’re invited to the launch of: GLBTIQ Creative Art Connection Date: Saturday 15th June 2013 Time: 9am-12pm Venue: Orwil Street Community House 16 Orwil Street Frankston Melways Ref: 100A G3 RSVP: Monday 10th June 2013 Email: morningtonglbtiq@yahoo.com.au Cost: Gold coin donation (minimum) which is for the hire of our venue and refreshments. Tea, coffee [...]
Dr Rhonda is conducting a survey regarding smoking within the GLBTIQ community.
Below is a brief description of the survey. If you wish to read the Plain Language Statement click here.
The GLBT Smoking Survey
Knowledge, attitudes and practices among GLBT smokers Do you identify as gay, lesbian, bi-sexual or transgender and are you aged 18+ years? Deakin University want to hear about your experience of cigarette smoking – whether you are still smoking, or, have quit! The anonymous online survey will take about 15 minutes.
Find it at: www.glbtsmokingsurvey.net.au
People in the GLBT community have higher rates of smoking than the overall population, but we need to learn more about smoking use, including attempts to quit, among the GLBT community.
This study explores smoking and your healthcare needs. What we learn from you will help make recommendations for better healthcare services for people in the GLBT community to quit smoking.
If you have any questions about the research please do not hesitate to contact Chief Investigator, Dr Rhonda Brown, Faculty of Health on 9251 7026 or email: rhonda.brown@deakin.edu.au HEAG-H 146_2012
British MPs have voted in favour of legislation allowing gay marriage, despite a split in prime minister David Cameron’s Conservative party.
The draft law, which proposes legalising same-sex marriage in England and Wales in 2014, was carried by 400 votes to 175 votes in the House of Commons.
The legislation is several stages away from becoming law, but has already exposed rifts within Mr Cameron’s party at a time when he is facing growing talk of a possible leadership challenge.
But with the majority of Liberal Democrat and Labour MPs supporting the bill, it passed easily.
The new law would also allow civil partners to convert their partnerships into marriages.
In a late intervention just two hours before lawmakers voted, Mr Cameron made a televised statement to say the move was about “making our society stronger”.
“I think it’s right that gay people should be able to get married too,” he said.
“This is yes about equality, but it’s also about making our society stronger.
“I know there are strong views on both sides of the argument. I respect that. But I think this is an important step forward for our country.”
Gay couples in Britain have had the right to enter into civil partnerships and adopt children since 2005.
The new law does not force the Anglican and Catholic churches – who strongly oppose the move – to conduct gay marriages, but critics say gay people may launch legal challenges.
Behind in the polls, analysts believe Mr Cameron is trying to perform a balancing act to reconcile his desire to show his party is progressive with the views of many of those inside it uncomfortable with such reform.
Amid growing talk of a possible leadership challenge against him, many Conservative MPs say they feel Mr Cameron is not a real Conservative and is sacrificing what were once core party values on the altar of populism.
If the legislation’s passage is just as smooth in the House of Lords, Britain will become the 12th country to legalise same-sex marriage.
MUCH has changed since Noel Tovey was convicted of having gay sex more than 60 years ago. The prison he was sent to has closed. The law that made sexual activity between men a crime no longer exists.
But Tovey believes that his criminal record remains in the Victoria Police database, and that he is still smeared with a ”buggery” conviction he has no way of removing.
For an unknown number of older gay men, historical convictions for consensual sex continue to cast a shadow over their lives. Despite Victoria decriminalising gay sex in 1981, these men are still prevented from applying for some jobs, such as teaching, or taking on volunteering roles.
Tovey in 1955.
”It was the era of the witch-hunt for any gay man,” says Tovey, a high-profile indigenous dancer, of when gay men were regularly arrested for ”homosexual acts”.
”If a man smiled at you in a toilet, you were afraid to smile back in case it was a policeman waiting to arrest you,” he says.
Parties were spoken about in whispers to avoid police attention, Tovey recalls. It was at one such party that he was arrested.
After police raided the party, at the home of Max du Barry in Albert Park in 1951, Tovey, then 17, says he was taken away for questioning.
”I was at a party given by one of Melbourne’s then infamous female impersonators,” he says. ”Everyone fled except me … and I was taken to the police station and coerced into writing a confession.”
After an alleged police beating, Tovey says he was forced into confessing he had had sex with du Barry. ”I’m not saying I hadn’t had sex with men, I had. But I hadn’t had sex with Max,” he says.
Tovey pleaded not guilty in court but the jury found him and du Barry guilty of buggery. Tovey spent months in Pentridge Prison awaiting his trial and was eventually released on a good behaviour bond.
Once out of prison, Tovey, then Noel Morton, changed his name in order to apply for
national service. Until then he had led his life as Noel Morton, but his mother revealed after his release that on his birth certificate his biological father’s name, and his original surname, was ”Tovey”. In this way, Tovey believes, he has been able to fudge his past over the years and seek to do things that having a sex conviction would normally preclude.
Tovey, now 79, hopes telling his story will add weight to the campaign led by the Victorian Gay and Lesbian Rights Lobby and Liberty Victoria for new laws to expunge these old convictions. They are calling for legislation that explicitly addresses the removal of convictions for consensual sexual activity between men.
The campaign comes after laws were passed in the UK earlier this year to allow thousands of men with convictions for consensual sexual activity to apply to have their criminal records cleared.
The state government has told Fairfax Media it is considering legislation to erase such convictions. Last year Prahran MP Clem Newton-Brown approached Attorney-General Robert Clark on the issue.
Mr Newton-Brown said that after reading Tovey’s autobiography, Little Black Bastard, he realised historical convictions were still an issue for men today.
”When I first started researching this issue I thought it would be a symbolic thing, particularly for the families of people who had died with a conviction, but through the course of the year it became apparent that it’s not just symbolic and could still affect people’s lives,” he says.
Mr Newton-Brown is working on a reform proposal and is concerned that older gay men continue to suffer emotionally. ”Emotionally, there is the burden of a conviction to live with. The mental health of older gay men doesn’t get a lot of attention to begin with.”
Tovey thinks such reform would be healing. ”I think it’s important for all the gay men charged for doing what came naturally to them,” he says.
A NEW study by the University of Melbourne,Turning Point Alcohol and Drug Centre and Monash University is looking at the correlation between excessive drinking, recreational drug use and depression among lesbian women 18 years and over.
Associate Professor Ruth McNair, part of the research team,told news.com.au that women of all ages who identify within this group are two to three times more likely to experience depression and anxiety.
Long term relationships, motherhood, good support networks and a positive coming out experience are all factors that prevent depression and alcohol and drug abuse later in life for lesbian, bisexual and transgender women.
“We know that that the on average most the gap between realising your sexuality and coming out to friends and family is between five and seven years. How members of this community are treated by their families during this time has a big impact on their wellbeing through life,” Dr McNair said.
She described this period as a high risk time. If not properly managed and supported, t is common for high incidences of alcohol consumption and mental health issues to start at this point.
“This is a very vulnerable time and can create huge problems, with many in this community feeling lost as a result of their treatment.”
Lesbian women who have had children were also found to be less susceptible to depression. Associate Professor McNeil said earlier research has found the experience of pregnancy and birth helped build women’s resilience and ultimately had a positive impact on how they dealt with depression symptoms when and if they arose.
Women over 50 years are of particular interest to the research group as they were part of a generation of lesbian women in Australia who predominately would not have kids.
They are also seeking women within this community who have had an overall positive experience for insight into the way they cope with stigma.
Are you a member of this community? Does this study interest you? Let us know…
(source: news.com.au)
Gay Asian Proud is a social support network for gay Asian men, their partners and friends. This network provides welcoming and supportive environment for gay Asian men to socialise and meet new people. The next Gay Asian Proud gathering is on Saturday, 22 December 2012 in South Yarra. Registration is essential to ensure that this group caters for gay Asian men. Email gap@vicaids.asn.au or call 9865 6700. For more info, visit www.vicaids.asn.au/gay-asian-proud.
Can you relate to any of these questions and do they explain how you feel or think at the moment? The good news is you are OK! All these are normal questions women are asking when coming to terms with their sexuality.
Questions like:
• Why am I like this?
• What does being lesbian or bisexual mean?
• Who do I tell? How will I tell them?
• Can I live a ‘normal’ life being lesbian?
• Should I tell people at work?
• Am I normal? Is it a phase?
• How will my parents react?
• I don’t even want to be like this!
• I don’t fit in with the “lesbian lifestyle”.
• What about religion?
• Will I lose my friends?
• I don’t have any lesbian friends.
• It’s not accepted in my culture.
Your Place is a six week program exploring the issues of coming out in a professionally run group conducted in a community setting that is friendly and welcoming facilitated by local counselling psychotherapist Mary Matthews. Women of all ages over are welcome.
The group involves a combination of professional education, informed discussion and learning through individual sharing. At the end of six weeks it is hoped that individuals will have a stronger sense of confidence, an understanding of community support networks, formed a connection with other people in the group to decrease isolation, and have an increased knowledge of how to come out safely leading to increased self-esteem and empowerment.
When: Tuesday 5th February to Tuesday 12th March 2013
Time: 7pm- 8.30pm
Location: 219 Glenlyon Rd. East Brunswick. Vic.
Booking : mmcounselling@gmail.com by 29th Jan 2013 to RSVP. Limited of 7 women.
Cost: $90, concession $80
Phone: 0409 567 233
At the Victorian AIDS Council/Gay Mens Health Centre, They need a hand this World AIDS Day.
On Saturday 1st December 2012, they will be giving away 50,000 red ribbons to the people of Melbourne at our World AIDS Day Street Appeal. But they can’t polish off the job and raise awareness of HIV without a few extra sets of hands.
If yours have 2 hours to spare this World AIDS Day, point them in the direction of the VAC/GMHC email worldaidsday@vicaids.asn.au now!!!
I come across this through Wagga Pride’s facebook page. Though I would share it through here. It is important to embrace our friends, and to remember those who have departed…
We “Wagga Pride” Send our thoughts to the friends of Cameron Vella. A young gay male originally from Wagga but currently lives in RockHampton, QLD. He took his life yesterday and he was close to one of our members Naylan McDonell.
Cameron was, from a very young age, extremely proud of his sexuality. He opened a GLBT support group called “The Rainbow Brigayde”. He opened these groups in a few locations (Rockhampton & Wagga and a few others). He opened these groups to fill a void that he experienced growing up. To know of a group where he could go and be recognised as equal. To go to a meeting once a month an be ‘normal’ and just chat about anything with anyone. Hatred was not alllwed within the group. All members had to leave all past emotions at the door. Once within the group everyone was free to be who they truly are. Cameron wanted to create a forum where people could explore themselves without the shameful oversight of judgement. He achieved this. The group operated for quite some time. Until it dwindled down to few members and eventually got lost into the abyss our society so quickly blankets small minorities with.
The group No longer met on a monthly basis and not one person seemed to mind. Except me – Naylan McDonell – I was left to run the group but lost momentum as a lost of interest came.
Thats why when this group “Wagga Pride” was opening I instantly put my hand up to be a member and have some input into its organisation… This group to has lost some momentum but is still slowly carrying on…
If after reading this you wonder what my rambling is about? I wanted to honour the death of a wonderful outstanding person who advocated for the rights of the LGBT community.
Sadly though… Even though his existence impacting many peoples lives, by opening such groups. He took his own life. Not only he (The outspoken proud, free person he was) could survive in a world full of such hatred.
Please if anything after reading this please remember that there is always to contact someone if you need to speak, about anything anytime. Someone is out there willing to listen! Speak to someone within this group, the group admins themselves or a friend or family member. Always remember that life is what you make it and you truly are special.
If you need to you are experiencing trouble feel free to contact our members as we can forward you onto another organisation who is better equipped to help you. Or check out the website -http://au.reachout.com/
“Where can I find Mr. Right?”
“What is it that I want in a relationship?”
“What is relationship communication?”
These are just some issues that we discuss in Relationships workshop. This is a great workshop for men who want to know more about relationships in a safe, supportive and confidential environment. The workshops runs for 6 weeks and we discuss issues such as personal expectation in relationships, relationship communication, sex and sexual health in relationships, and starting over when a relationship has ended.
Next Workshop – starts on 12 November – 17 December (every Monday night for 6 weeks) from 7 – 10 pm at VAC/GMHC, 6 Claremont St, South Yarra.
For more information contact 9865 6700 or relationships@vicaids.asn.au to register your interest.
Drag Race is a battle of the bands type event but with sequins, feathers, glitter and suits and open to all people aged 25 and under in Victoria, willing to strut their stuff in li’l ol’ Ballarat, whether they are seasoned performers or just wanting to give it a go.
For more information email: lorenneramanauskas@BALLARAT.VIC.GOV.AU